WHY IS IT SO HARD TO BE KIND TO OURSELVES?
We grow up with a very fragmented concept of kindness. We tend to see kindness as acts that always seem to involve third parties. We can show great kindness to others yet we generally deny that great gift to ourSelves. True kindness is not an act. - It is a STATE OF BEING based on the knowledge that ALL IS ONE.
We can only be as kind to others as we can be kind to ourSelves.
Anything else is just a learned concept which, sooner or later, will leave us feeling depleted and disappointed. If we deny ourSelves the loving kindness which we try to extend to others, we inevitably end up exhausted and frustrated - we simply cannot keep it up.
One of my clients books regular Reflexology treatments in the comfort of her home. This is one of her coping strategies for being a mother of twins aged 5 and a full time professional. I love to observe how the twins gradually learn that this is 'mummy's special time'. Children grasp the concept of 'special time' as something they want to get a lot of for themselves. It makes sense, then, for children to learn that everyone needs 'special time' and they will respect their mum for valuing herSelf enough to take care of herSelf, rather than, just seeing herSelf in the role of CARER FOR OTHERS. I have no doubt the twins will grow up with a concept that validates Self Care.
Another client, a single mum of three, suffers with frequent tension headaches and high blood pressure. Her sons have been diagnosed with ADHD and my client learned to recognize that whenever she is able to stay calm and consistent, her sons seem calmer too. We decided on a treatment package, where we combine Indian Head Massage/ Reflexology with Visualisation/ Affirmations and put a Self help exercise sequence together which she can use whenever the tension rises.
Another client prefers to come to the clinic where he can 'get out of the home environment.' His choice of a well-being treatment package combines Holistic Body Massage with Deep Tissue Massage. This approach not only relieves the tension in his neck and shoulders, caused mainly by his work at the computer, but also help him to relax and unwind.
Let's face it, the simplest things in life so often are the most difficult to comprehend. We preach to our partners, children, clients and friends. We tell them how important it is for them to be kind to themSelves. We might even get them a gift voucher so they can de-stress with a holistic treatment. Yet we will not be very convincing unless we 'walk our talk'. How can you provide all the constant loving kindness for your children, partner, clients, friends or parents, if you do not re-charge your own batteries? It has to be a two way stream of GIVING & RECEIVING.
As an Holistic Natural Health Practitioner I book regular holistic treatment sessions for mySelf. I need to 're-charge my batteries' just as much as any of my clients do. How can I assist in any healing if I do not provide for my own healing on a regular and ongoing basis?
HOLISTIC means treating the whole person. - Let me hold a space for you, where you can 'Simply Unwind'.
Kerstin Weber, 2009
We can only be as kind to others as we can be kind to ourSelves.
Anything else is just a learned concept which, sooner or later, will leave us feeling depleted and disappointed. If we deny ourSelves the loving kindness which we try to extend to others, we inevitably end up exhausted and frustrated - we simply cannot keep it up.
One of my clients books regular Reflexology treatments in the comfort of her home. This is one of her coping strategies for being a mother of twins aged 5 and a full time professional. I love to observe how the twins gradually learn that this is 'mummy's special time'. Children grasp the concept of 'special time' as something they want to get a lot of for themselves. It makes sense, then, for children to learn that everyone needs 'special time' and they will respect their mum for valuing herSelf enough to take care of herSelf, rather than, just seeing herSelf in the role of CARER FOR OTHERS. I have no doubt the twins will grow up with a concept that validates Self Care.
Another client, a single mum of three, suffers with frequent tension headaches and high blood pressure. Her sons have been diagnosed with ADHD and my client learned to recognize that whenever she is able to stay calm and consistent, her sons seem calmer too. We decided on a treatment package, where we combine Indian Head Massage/ Reflexology with Visualisation/ Affirmations and put a Self help exercise sequence together which she can use whenever the tension rises.
Another client prefers to come to the clinic where he can 'get out of the home environment.' His choice of a well-being treatment package combines Holistic Body Massage with Deep Tissue Massage. This approach not only relieves the tension in his neck and shoulders, caused mainly by his work at the computer, but also help him to relax and unwind.
Let's face it, the simplest things in life so often are the most difficult to comprehend. We preach to our partners, children, clients and friends. We tell them how important it is for them to be kind to themSelves. We might even get them a gift voucher so they can de-stress with a holistic treatment. Yet we will not be very convincing unless we 'walk our talk'. How can you provide all the constant loving kindness for your children, partner, clients, friends or parents, if you do not re-charge your own batteries? It has to be a two way stream of GIVING & RECEIVING.
As an Holistic Natural Health Practitioner I book regular holistic treatment sessions for mySelf. I need to 're-charge my batteries' just as much as any of my clients do. How can I assist in any healing if I do not provide for my own healing on a regular and ongoing basis?
HOLISTIC means treating the whole person. - Let me hold a space for you, where you can 'Simply Unwind'.
Kerstin Weber, 2009